When you’re in a dangerous situation, the only choice you have is to stay or to go. I really struggled to go to the next level of being closer to people. I think it’s to stay somewhere in the middle of not leaving and leaving. And I think the moderation of being connected and alone is the best place to be, not too much of an extreme.
I always thought being smart and strong and independent and knowing who to stay away from was the best and that it would protect me. It’s ironic because I notice that the way I most often get hurt is when I feel bad for someone, and never because I was somehow weaker. And so, after many battles, I think, the secret to being actually secure is to let people feel bad for you when they hurt you. That’s it.