Tag: generational trauma

• You must be out of your mind

  Song by the magnetic fields If you think you can leave the past behind You must be out of your mind

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  October 15, 2022

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• Savages

  Love is not always quiet and comforting and gentle Sometimes it comes like thunder and storms It comes loudly and violently and quickly and intensely Yes even a good love I was always too much Too selfish too fearless too strong They told me a woman should fear something All the square shaped holes that […]

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  October 11, 2022

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• The rocks

  He asked me, how do the rocks stop the waves when they are the same level as the ocean? I don’t know the mystery Also I don’t know how you stop the others You who are a man equal to the other men in every way Maybe I want to share myself with you Not […]

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  October 9, 2022

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• I know it’s over

  You can keep everything The suitcases of my sweetness The shelves of my care The playlists of the memories of us I used to think it was black or white He loved me or he didn’t I know people talked But everyone knew you loved me I’m leaving just because Just because it’s not easy […]

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  September 22, 2022

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• Begging for chains

  Spinoza said the greatest problem of philosophy is why we beg for our chains I used to be desperate to love someone so that I could abandon myself The way my father taught me: Love means letting go, love means sacrifice, love means being selfless, it’s brave to discard yourself for something else, you’re strong […]

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  January 9, 2022

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• Glass

  After trauma I kept repeating reactions to it as if I was fighting with a ghost. I felt really humiliated when the same experiences happened again. My friends and family looked at me like I was crazy. What’s wrong with her she used to be a smart girl. Why can’t she figure this out. The […]

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  December 29, 2021

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• Drama king

  You said you hated all the fighting that you got into with your friends on group chat and you couldn’t stand the drama You were misunderstood by your team you said No one seemed to understand your off-brand wisdom I worked to the bone to unravel your complicated mess because you looked at me with […]

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  December 23, 2021

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• Comraderie

  In the fight against the world, we fought on the same side, for the same cause. We’re brothers, you said Then you slept with other girls. You always wanted to be right. In love, you treated me like a woman. I tried to teach you to be my equal. But you only knew how to […]

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  December 20, 2021

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• The fall of summer

  The taste of apple, kale and ginger reminds me of the first day of fall, maybe even before that actually, more like the first day in the summer when you knew it was ending. The memory of summer feels like one long day that turned into one long night. Warm and hazy, I swam through […]

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  November 13, 2021

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• To the child…

  What I’d say to the child version of my dad who grew up without a mom His mom was banned from seeing him when his parents got divorced: Someone loves you Someone is more devastated at losing you than you are of missing her You will have chances to experience love and when you do, […]

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  August 8, 2021

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